We heard from many of you after our Surviving A Layoff post last week. Some of you mentioned that you were feeling stuck and unable to come up with a list of your top skills and strengths because you’re so drained from the experience of the layoff.
We get it. We’ve been there and we know it’s hard to think about the positive stuff when you’re in the midst of questioning whether you ever added value. And forget about possibility thinking, right?
So, we’d like to offer you a couple of small steps you can take this week to help you think about the skills you want to offer and the environment in which you’ll thrive.
We’ve seen that it can be easier to voice what you want by thinking about what you don’t want.
- First, start with what you didn’t like about your job. Think about things like:
- Skills used
- Level of responsibility
- Level of visibility
- Level of stress
- Pace of the work
- Team dynamics
- Now, if you’re able, think about what you did like, using the above list as a prompt.
- Finally, it can be powerfully helpful to reach out to colleagues, family (even young kids), and friends, and ask them, “What do I do well?”
- This can feel awkward to do, so blame your coaches here at CSC . . . that can make it easier to ask.
- You’ll likely start to see themes in the answers that people are giving you.
If you’ve sped through those steps and are wanting more, don’t forget about our recent Dream Job posts where we walk you through some additional ways to get clear about setting yourself up for success.
Remember, it’s important to be gentle with yourself if you’re struggling to move on. If you were talking to a dear friend, you wouldn’t say, “Just get over it!” You’d likely say, “I believe in you.” or “You can do this!”
Perhaps this experience will help to point you in the direction of where you’re supposed to go next. You lost this job and that sucks. Now you have the opportunity to get more of what you want out of your next job.
We believe in you!